Facing difficult life challenges, such as going through a divorce, may not seem like a logical time to be thankful. Yet studies have shown that cultivating gratitude, even when the chips are down, can have profound impact on our health -- for the better. Gratitude improves physical health. A 2012 study published in Personality and Individual Differences found that grateful people exercise … [Read more...]
Don’t forget these marital assets in your divorce
Often, many of the women I work with on their divorce finances know very little, sometimes nothing, about their marital assets (or liabilities for that matter). This is gradually changing, but surprisingly, still exists. Maybe the husband has simply kept the information largely to himself, or the wife doesn't feel she understands finances like she should, so leaves it up to her spouse, or she … [Read more...]
Divorce and employer bonuses
An often overlooked asset that should be legally divided in a divorce settlement is the company or employer bonus. Many attorneys forget to address the community nature of such bonuses. Even if they are paid in the year following divorce, company bonuses are partially community property. Bonuses are paid for the preceding year’s services or performance. The settlement agreement or divorce … [Read more...]
Social Security benefits and divorce
Decisions about filing for Social Security benefits will affect you financially for the rest of your life. And if you have gotten divorced in the past, you may qualify to receive Social Security on the work record of your ex-spouse. However, you must meet several requirements for qualifying to receive these benefits. You also must consider at what age to start taking those benefits. Here are … [Read more...]
How to prepare for divorce mediation
The use of mediation as an alternative to the courtroom has become increasingly popular, especially in the divorce process. It’s affordable, confidential and achieves results. In last month's blog post, I wrote about the many faces of divorce mediation for Houston area couples. Mediation, in one form or another, is now an integral part of most divorces in Texas and many other states. Some … [Read more...]
Facing divorce? Don’t dread the holidays — prepare instead
If you are considering divorce in 2018, you are probably dreading the approaching holidays. Let's face it, no one wants to acknowledge marital discord when the theme is "joy" and "good cheer." As the New Year approaches, consider focusing now on preparation and planning for what lies ahead. Here are some steps you can take during the holidays that will lay the ground work for a more productive … [Read more...]
Four Ways to Get Divorced, Part 2 — Early Intervention or Cooperative Divorce Mediation
Traditional divorce and child custody processes are predominately adversarial in nature. In a typical "war-of-the-roses" divorce scenario, spouses each hire an attorney, and then a variety of expert consultants enter the fray on both sides to produce "dueling" business evaluations, financial analyses and/or custody evaluations. This type of divorce can go on for many months or even years, … [Read more...]
Research and reflect on divorce before you file
Still considering divorce, but not yet ready to file? In my experience, the most prepared couples who divorce, have reflected on the decision over many months or even years. So, if you find yourself thinking about divorce, know that you are not alone. Yet, also realize that being stuck in between is nowhere to be either. Here are some questions from a psychotherapist to ask yourself if you are … [Read more...]
Assemble an experienced team of pros for your divorce — your future depends on it
Your divorce may not "take a village," but assembling a good team of key professionals will make a big difference in the outcome. Depending on the complexity and unique aspects of your divorce situation, you should consider hiring the best experts you can afford to assist you in navigating the divorce process. Consider this an investment in yourself, your family and your future, and well worth the … [Read more...]
Looking for clues of bad behavior during divorce (part two)
In part one of our blog post with this headline, we discussed a variety of red flags to look for during the divorce process that may indicate a spouse is behaving badly. We also offered tips to better protect yourself against such behavior, as well as how to educate yourself about the divorce process and what to expect. In this blog post, we will take our examination of bad behavior during … [Read more...]